It’s heartbreaking. It’s painful. If you didn’t see it coming, it’s like a sucker punch to the gut. You have reason to believe your girlfriend is cheating on you. You’re angry, anxious, and hurting. What should you do?
First, we recommend making sure of the fact your girlfriend is actually cheating on you. By that, we mean gathering irrefutable proof. You may suspect she’s cheating, but you still need to catch her in the act.
You need to be sure before you confront her. Unfounded accusations will hurt more than help.
How do you gather evidence of your girlfriend’s unfaithfulness? There are several signs that you need to be on the lookout for. The phone monitoring tool Neatspy will let you spy on your girlfriend remotely, 24/7, and look for said signs.
Isn’t that unethical? Not if she’s cheating on you. You need to know the truth. If she isn’t cheating, you’ll owe her a big apology. Read on to find out exactly how to catch your maybe-cheating girlfriend red-handed:
Part 1: How to Catch Your Girlfriend Cheating
1.1 Is my girlfriend cheating on me? The top signs to watch out for
Sometimes it’s clear as day if someone’s cheating on you. At other times, it’s not as obvious. Observe your girlfriend’s behavior carefully before jumping to conclusions. Here are the top signs to watch out for:
1.2 How the trusted Neatspy app allows you to catch your cheating girlfriend in the act
Neatspy is a trusted phone monitoring tool, used by millions in over 190 countries. The app enables you to remotely spy on your girlfriend’s smartphone. With Neatspy, you’ll know exactly what she gets up to – and with whom!
Neatspy offers several features that will enable you to catch your girlfriend red-handed, so to speak:
1.3 Installing Neatspy to access the dashboard and catch your girlfriend
Neatspy works with both target iPhones and Android devices. In both cases, it’s virtually undetectable.
1. Using Neatspy with a target iPhone device
The iPhone version of Neatspy is web-based and works without a jailbreak. You don’t need physically access to your girlfriend’s iPhone. There’s no need to download anything either.
Neatspy works remotely. It’s 100% stealthy. Your girlfriend will never know she’s been spied on.
Create a Neatspy account for free first.
Enter your girlfriend’s Apple ID and Password
2. Using Neatspy with target Android device
To use Neatspy with a target Android phone, you’ll need physical access to the target device. You will have to install a small app on it and change some settings. You don’t need to root the device.
The Android version of Neatspy runs in the background on the phone. It’s tiny at less than 2 MB. It doesn’t drain the battery or slow the device down in any way. Also, it’s next to impossible to detect.
Follow the steps listed in our Android installation guide.
3. Accessing the dashboard to catch your cheating girlfriend
After Neatspy is up and running, the dashboard screen will show up. You can access Neatspy’s various features to the left.
For example, click on “Calls” to bring up a detailed log of your girlfriend’s call history. Choose “Messages” to read her text messages, including the deleted ones!
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Part 2: What Do You Do When You Catch Your Girlfriend Cheating?
Did you find proof your girlfriend is cheating on you? We recommend you don’t do anything. Don’t call her, confront her, or lash out at her blindly. Give yourself some time to calm down and think things through.
1. Ask yourself how you feel about her now
You may be feeling shocked and betrayed. If you were truly attached to your girlfriend, you may feel shaken to the core. You need to get a handle on your emotions. Go for a walk. Take time for yourself.
Give yourself as much time as you need. Ask yourself how you feel about her now. Do you want to continue with the relationship? Will you be able to trust her again? Or do you think you should move on?
2. Has she cheated on you in the past?
It’s a known fact that women who have cheated before are likely to do so again. If your girlfriend has cheated on you before, her doing it again shouldn’t come as a surprise.
If you’re looking for a committed, monogamous relationship, ask yourself is she’s truly the right person for you. If she keeps promising to change but doesn’t, she’s lying to both you and herself.
3. Talk to your friends and family
Surround yourself with the people who care about you. Seek out counsel from someone wise who knows the both of you. If you have loving support, you’ll be able to deal with the emotional betrayal better.
Your self-esteem may have also been shaken. But remember – cheating is always about the other person, not you. You are worthy of love. The people who are closest to you should help you realize that.
4. Be strong – remember your self-worth
You are likely to feel emotionally off balance. You may be willing to take her back if she just repents and apologizes. But sometimes you have to be strong, understand you are with the wrong person, and move on.
Some women repent, it’s true. But they’re repentant of the fact they’ve been caught, not that they were cheating on you. You need to figure out if your girlfriend is truly repentant and willing to commit to you.
5. Confront your partner
Confront your girlfriend. Do it in private. Be calm beforehand. Don’t make a scene. Keep the evidence you’ve gathered about her infidelity handy. If she lies or pretends to be innocent, you’ll need it.
Observe her body language during the confrontation. Don’t try to shame her, belittle her, or push her away. But do tell her you know she’s cheating. And her behavior has hurt and disappointed you.
See how she reacts to you. Does she seem repentant about her behavior? She may want to give it another go. Does she get defensive or angry? Or is she indifferent about her cheating habits? She’s unrepentant.
6. Salvage the relationship – or move on
If she’s truly repentant, you could potentially salvage the relationship. But remember – it’s going to be a long-term effort. You will have difficulty trusting her again. Deep healing requires time and effort.
Think she’s not repentant? Do yourself a favor and move on. Work through your emotions and grieve if you have to. Don’t be afraid of leaving and never looking back. Giving her another chance will hurt you.
You may require counseling to get over her – or to make your relationship stronger. Surround yourself by people who care about you. Be positive. Remember that you’re destined to end up with someone who loves you.